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If my body’s a temple…then I painted a wall?

I got a tattoo.

Sh*t, I planned on having some big build up to reveal that fact, but I got excited typing and skipped right to the good part.

Anyway, it’s not really wedding-related so I don’t know if I should even be posting it here, but damn if it doesn’t fit under the category “Fine, Change”.

I get asked about the “7” tattoo on my shoulder all the time so I thought I’d take to the blog to explain my ink a bit.¬† Mostly because the next 20 times I’m asked, I can just forward an easy link ūüôā

It's just my number.

I got the 7 a few years ago.¬† All I can say about it is that 7 is just my number.¬† It seems to follow me around every where I go.¬† My birthday’s March 7th, every significant date in my life has been on 7th (or 17th, etc). ¬†If I’m going to win money in roulette, it’s going to be on a 7.¬† It felt like it was on my shoulder long before it was there.¬† There are a lot of symbolic, spiritual, meaningful associations with 7’s, like:

-The number of notes in a major scale

-The number of days of Creation

-The number of stellar objects in our Solar System visible to the naked eye

-The number of colors in the rainbow

-The number of chakras

-The number of spots on a ladybug

But none of those we’re responsible for the ink.¬† It’s just…my number.

SO, when I decided to tat up again it had to be something that was equally meaningful.¬† I’ve been thinking about writing something on my wrist for a while now.¬† I wanted something that was powerful to me, something that would put my head in the right mental space, something that would inspire me every time I saw it.¬† I think the¬†wrist is particularly intense tattoo real estate; it’s literally a pulsating life point on your body.¬† So I wanted a phrase that was aligned with my philosophical way of life.

I started¬†understanding Law of Attraction¬†(more specifically, Abraham-Hicks) a few years ago & it’s changed just about every part of my life.¬† I’ve learned that happiness is a conscious choice.¬† Rather than just observe life and let the good and bad things I see dictate my mood, I choose each thought with care and make a conscious effort to focus on the positive in a situation. ¬†I try to see the beauty in every person & focus on¬†things I appreciate every day.

We all need reminders, and I can have just as effed up a day as the next guy, so writing something on my wrist that reminds me to stay focused on the positive is legitimately helpful.

Come to me this thing I want

The phrase “Come to me, this thing I want” is so beautiful to me.¬† It comes from an Esther Hicks quote in which she says something to the effect of:

It’s a Universe of inclusion.¬† Come to me, this thing I want or come to me, this thing I don’t want.¬† In other words, whatever you think about, you get.

I don’t want to waste my¬†time worrying or…energetically pre-planning negative events.¬† Seeing these words every day helps me reframe.¬† When I know what I don’t want, I more clearly know what I DO want.

What is it you want?

Focusing on that, versus the LACK of that is so much more effective.¬† Sounds new age-y (and I get that that freaks some people out),¬†but it’s just science.¬† Ask Einstein.

Smart guy.

And for¬†the law of attraction skeptics out there, let’s say this is all a bunch of crap.¬† Worst case scenario¬†from consciously focusing on the positive?¬† You feel better!¬† Thinking about stuff that makes you happy…makes you happy.¬† So even if you can’t wrap your head around the whole “manifest destiny” concept, finding a little better thought than the one you currently hold on a subject will¬†lift your overall mood.¬† And that joy can¬†lift the spirits of people around you. ¬†And THAT joy can rub off on the people around them.¬† And¬†(CUE SWELLING MUSIC!)¬†suddenly the world’s a better place ūüôā

Side note- if¬†you’re into¬†this stuff, I highly recommend my friend, Scott Raposa’s music.¬† He takes Abraham quotes & mixes it into really¬†amazing ambient electronica tracks.¬† Check it out:¬†

Big thanks to the beautiful and talented Miss D’Jo at Lark Tattoo (¬†)



Hot Up Boot Camp.

I want to be HOT on my wedding day.¬† Not every day hot, exceptional hot.¬† I want to look back at those pictures when I’m old & wrinkly and be all “DAMMMMNNNN!”.¬† I don’t even use phrases like “I’ll be all ‘DAMMMNNNN!'”, but that’s seriously the level of hot I’m looking for.¬† I intend¬†to put a Kardashian to shame, that’s all I’m saying.

So I’m trying to figure out what goes into that hotting up process.

Let’s start with the obvious.¬† My dream weight is a buck 17 (perhaps you’ve noticed my obsession with sevens…and yup, it’s pretty much that arbitrary).¬† I can’t break 122 to save my life.¬† And frankly, that’s working hard for it-¬†I rest comfortably at 124.¬† I know there are people who would roll their eyes at my quest to drop 5 lbs, but let me tell you, I’ve come a long way to get to the point where 5 lbs matters. I look at working out as my job (and¬†a caloric penance of sorts for eating total and complete sh*t all day).¬†¬†117 is the lowest healthy BMI for my height and I think being a¬†healthy weight¬†is more important than being Kate Moss.¬† Besides, I’m built too naturally Jessica Rabbit-esque¬†to¬†risk looking emaciated (I’ve gotta have at least 10 lbs¬†in knockers alone?!).¬† My¬†goal may sound crazy, but¬†I have yet to meet a girl who is 100% satisfied with her weight as it stands.¬† And while I think I look fine in person-¬†I’m a size 2¬†and I don’t have “problem areas” to defensively dress- I recognize (and am thankful) that my¬†world is often on camera & that cameras completely suck balls, as far as the whole adding 5 lbs thing goes. ¬†Point being, I want to be 117.

(I'm way more the one on the right)

So there’s that.

Also on the hot up list-¬†I’m doing laser hair removal.¬† Ok, that wont necessarily show up on wedding pictures, but come on!¬† Who doesn’t want baby smooth legs all the time??¬† Plus, there was a groupon.¬† So a couple months before the wedding, I’ll be relatively hairless.

Annnnd¬†while I’m at it-¬†I’m getting a tattoo removed.¬† Don’t you worry-¬†I’d never touch my “7”.¬† This one’s¬†a smidge south-¬†the ‘ol “tramp stamp” was such an awesome idea in college but much like Crystal Pepsi,¬†it just doesn’t pass the test of time.¬† There should be a law that you have to¬†take some emotional maturity¬†exam before they can start inking you.¬† Or maybe move the age¬†limit to 25.¬† I’m just saying you need to know what it is you truly¬†stand for before you¬†permanently declare it on your skin.¬†¬†I kick around ideas for new tattoos all the time- I don’t think I’m done with the ink.¬† But¬†I feel more settled into who I am at this point in my life & I don’t think¬†any new work¬†would be the result of a drunken stumble into a shady¬†parlor.¬† Side note on removal: I’m fairly certain having a limb¬†amputated¬†is less painful.¬† You’ve been warned.

I’m willing to say that¬†I know¬†all of this¬†is¬†a little screwy.¬† I get that the Utopian version of me would look lovingly¬†in a mirror and find peace & self-acceptance & unicorns & rainbows & valium.¬†¬†I was inspired and slightly horrified by¬†, Kjerstin¬†Gruys¬†self-imposed mirror ban for the year leading up to her wedding-¬†have you heard about this?¬† How the eff she’s avoiding mirrors for a year is beyond me (although in fairness, she doesn’t get picked apart on “fan” sites, so you gotta give me a little room for neurosis).¬† I give the girl props.¬† And would offer the girl xanax.

But I digress.

Here’s my favorite part of the story-¬†Richie’s jumped in my hot up for the wedding¬†boat!¬† We have a dentist (periodontist, actually) that we adore here in NYC, Nicholas Toscano, DDS (¬†).¬† He does all our dental work- we both did deep cleanings over the summer & I have a whitening hobby (slash mild obsession) that¬†Dr. Toscano¬†assists with.¬† He’s just a good dude, does a great job, really cares about his patients & pretty much¬†treats our teeth like they were gold capped gangsta gems ūüôā

Although Richie had braces twice as a kid, they never really “took”.¬† So he sat down with Dr. Toscano (follow¬†!) to see if there was anything he could do to permanently fix his teeth. And while you’d never know it to look at OR talk to Richie…he¬†now has¬†braces!¬† Dr. Toscano did Richie’s Invisalign.¬† So in about 6 months, Richie’s teeth will look amazing.¬† I didn’t know anything about Invisalign, but I’m completely blown away.¬† You don’t see them!¬† You can take them out! ¬†I’m not sure why anyone would get the old school metal train tracks with this technology readily available.

Richie looks fantastic in that lipstick shade, no?

Oh-¬†and here’s the coolest part.¬† Richie trains in Brazilian Jiu¬†Jitsu¬†almost every night.¬† And Dr. Toscano didn’t want Richie to have all that time training with a mouthguard in his mouth instead of his Invisalign.¬† So he’s creating CUSTOM INVISALIGN¬†MOUTHGUARDS for Richie!!¬† How cool is that?!

So that’s the plan.¬† Don’t get me wrong, I would marry Richie with imperfect teeth as quickly as he’d marry me with stubbly legs and an outdated tattoo.¬† But the wedding is kind of a natural hot up deadline.¬† It’s nice to set some life goals that we can accomplish over the next¬†twelve months, three weeks and one day.