Monthly Archives: May 2013

The most beautiful bouquet I’ve ever seen.

There was one part of my wedding that was so unique & special that I recommend every bride incorporate it.  A vintage brooch bouquet.  I first became aware of Amanda Heer (www.fantasyfloraldesigns.com ) shortly after my engagement when a friend sent me a link to 10 unique wedding ideas.  It included her brooch bouquets.  And I was smitten.

It’s basically this: instead of carrying flowers down the aisle, you carry a bouquet created out of family heirlooms.  I was struck by the beauty of the antique brooch bouquets I saw on Amanda’s website, but I was a little protective of my family treasures & couldn’t imagine unearthing them all from the depths of my dresser.  Because that’s where they go.  But ultimately it occurred to me that I might enjoy them more by actually using them instead of burying them all in a drawer.

I spent about a year collecting meaningful pieces.  And it wasn’t hard.  I asked family & a few close friends to give me something special to include & I was stuck by how important some of the pieces were.  Here are a few that were so profound to me:

My Great Grandmother, Mae, performed on Vaudeville.  I've had these earrings since I was 7 years old.  Probably my most treasured possession.

My Great Grandmother, Mae, performed on Vaudeville. I’ve had these earrings since I was 7 years old. Probably my most treasured possession.

The hospital put this bracelet on Richie's wrist when he was first born.

The hospital put this bracelet on Richie’s wrist when he was first born.

This was my Grandmother's wedding ring. I bawled when she gave it to me for the bouquet.

This was my Grandmother’s wedding ring. I bawled when she gave it to me for the bouquet.

This watch band is one of the few things Richie owns of his fathers.  He actually ghave me the whole watch to use, but I secretly had the face converted into a pocket watch that I gave him on our wedding day.

This watch band is one of the few things Richie owns of his fathers. He actually gave me the whole watch, but I secretly had the face converted into a pocket watch that I gave him on our wedding day.

Elvis' dog tag.

Elvis’ dog tag.

Putting these things in the mail was pretty much the scariest part.  But Amanda comes with some serious endorsements; she’s been featured on ABC, NBC, WeTV, Bravo, she was voted Trendsetter of the Year in 2010 & Wedding Wire in 2011, she’s been Best of The Knot- the list goes on & on.  So I insured the eff out of that package & sent it off.  And then I chewed off my nails every single day that ticked by while I awaited the return of my most priceless possessions.

When the box arrived from Amanda & I took my bouquet out, I actually cried.  It was beyond just beautiful, it was a collection of my life, my family, our history.  And walking down the aisle with it was all the more meaningful- relatives no longer with me felt a part of my big day. It was beyond just a “Something Old” fulfillment- I was carrying my family with me.

I absolutely *LOVED* my bouquet.

I absolutely *LOVED* my bouquet.

Every piece was significant.

Every piece was significant.

After the ceremony, I displayed the bouquet next to a corkboard I’d made that highlighted each individual piece so our guests could appreciate the significance.

We displayed pictures and description of every item.

We displayed pictures and descriptions of every item.

I had a small real bouquet to toss.

I had a small real bouquet to toss.

Details on the pieces.

Details on the pieces.

Just carrying the bouquet was emotionally powerful.

Just carrying the bouquet was emotionally powerful.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Today, I’ve put the bouquet in a shadow box in my living room.  And I admire it every day.  It’s a much more noble life for those heirlooms than the back of my dresser drawer.

If there was one component of my wedding that I would recommend to every single bride, it’s Amanda’s brooch bouquet.  It still chokes me up to think about it.

On facebook: https://www.facebook.com/broochbouquets

 

 

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MAAAAAAKKKEEUUUPPPPPPPP!!!!!!! (cue powder puff to the face)

The real unsung hero (/potential villain) of any wedding day is the makeup artist.  And I should admit this right off the bat: I’m a control freak about makeup & I pretty much hate anyone who attempts to do mine.  It’s no fault of the artist, it’s just that I’ve had my somewhat clunky features for 31 years now & I know the tricks to play up the good stuff & try to hide the things I hate.  And there’s no way, cute little makeup lady with delicate features, that you’re going to pull out some eye shadow and know better what to do.   So I’m inherently a skeptic.  Which I explained at length to makeup guru Kristen Therese (http://www.kristentherese.com) before our makeup trial,  such that her feelings would be spared when she was inevitably insulted.

But then guess what?  I actually loved it.  In fact, Richie STILL says to this day that when Kristen did my makeup, it was the prettiest I’d ever looked (which I’m choosing not to take as an insult but more as a reflection of why she’s won The Knot’s Best of Weddings for 2012 & 2013).  So when the trial went well, I knew she was my girl.  With caveats, of course.   I’d be doing 90% of my own makeup (told you about that control freak part), but she could do the remaining facial components that I wasn’t hung up on (you’re just never going to see me without a liquid liner cat eye and it’s time you accept that).

On the big day, Kristen showed up at the hotel bright & early and dove right in, making my bridesmaids and my mom look absolutely beautiful.  I was pretty much on the verge of a nervous breakdown all day, so my plans to perfectly put on my own face went just about out the window (I managed the eyeliner, obvi).  Kristen calmed my nerves (with the help of champagne) and made me look and feel beautiful.

Not only did I leave the hotel looking great, Kristen worked her cute booty off all night touching me up, fixing my lipstick and making sure the makeup held.  And you might take that for granted, but let me tell you- without her, I would have had my face in a compact all night making sure I was camera ready.  There was a level of comfort and relaxation knowing someone had my back.  Or my face, actually.

Kristen worked around my eyeliner demands. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Kristen worked around my eyeliner demands.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

I really trusted her! Photo credit: DonHwang.com

You are witnessing rare makeup artist trust!
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

She really brought out my bone structure. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

She really brought out my bone structure.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

I finally relaxed when Rupert joined me in the makeup chair. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

I finally relaxed when Rupert joined me in the makeup chair.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Final product, courtesy of KristenTherese.com. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Final product, courtesy of KristenTherese.com.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

I felt confident, thanks to Kristen. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

I felt confident, thanks to Kristen.
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And it held up all night! Photo credit: DonHwang.com

And it held up all night!
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Don’t just plan on doing your own makeup on the big day.  Because you can’t.  100 crazy things are going to be happening & knowing you can hand off how you look to a professional is going to keep you sane.

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/KristenThereseMakeup

Twitter: http://twitter.com/KristenTherese

Hair god.

I have a hair god.  A god of hair.  His name is Scott Wasserman, he’s the owner of NYC salon “Hair & The City” (http://www.hairandthecitynyc.com) and he is a GAME CHANGER.

I don’t know if you’re familiar with what a “hair god” does, but it’s essentially this: he makes your hair look effing awesome.

Scotty has been my personal hair god for years.  Fans of Howard TV’s “The Bonus Show” may remember my ever changing locks from episode to episode, all courtesy of Scott.

A little about him: Scott Wasserman has been a professional stylist for over ten years.  He studied at the L’Oreal Academy in Soho, New York City, with the top technicians in the business and performs expertly all haircutting techniques for men and women, hair extensions, lace front wigs, and is a specialist in all types of color applications.  Along with his beloved clientelle at Hair & the City, Scott works with top commercial photographers on editorial and fine art photography as well as hair for television, film, special events and fashion shows.

So, as I made my wedding day plans, there was no one I wanted by my neurotic side more than Scott.  Who graciously dropped everything to make me & my peeps look amazing.

Consult the evidence:

Scott sprays his magic fairy dust.  Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Scott sprays his magic fairy dust.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

When he put the veil on, I went from neurotic to emotional. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

When he put the veil on, I went from neurotic to emotional.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Absolutely loved my hair.  Thank you Scott. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Absolutely loved my hair. Thank you Scott.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

All of the girls looked amazing! Photo credit: DonHwang.com

All of the girls looked amazing!
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

I loved how soft my hair looked, yet it didn't budge all night.  It was both simple and intricate. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

I loved how soft my hair looked, yet it didn’t budge all night. It was both simple and intricate.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

 

 

 

 

Scott's next to the only man with more hair authority- Giorgio Tsoukalos. Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Scott’s next to the only man with more hair authority- Giorgio Tsoukalos.
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Scott's not just my hair god.  He's my friend :) Photo credit: DonHwang.com

Scott’s not just my hair god. He’s my friend 🙂
Photo credit: DonHwang.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So, the next time you need a hair cut, you know where to go.  I am willing to share my hair god with you, my friends. But if I can’t get an appointment cause you’re all swarming him I’m going to get cranky.

 

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